“Time spent on reconnaissance is seldom wasted so be as independent as you can but don’t be reluctant to ask for help when you think you need it.” — Unknown
The rising demand of the instant gratification lifestyle and the popularity of entrepreneurship in our society, economy, our ears and eyes, books we read, and virtually everyplace else, has spread like California wildfires in the past couple of years. At least it seems like that, right?
It seems to be we as people are biting off a little bit more than we can chew right now hoping we’ll quickly learn how to chew on it. We’ve got to ask ourselves, “Is that alright?”
We’re asking for almost anything, wanting everything yesterday and searching for magic potions to help with our longevity, health, families, legal issues, energy, forgiveness and money.
But guess which of those 7 items I just mentioned would be sold out if we hypothetically marketed the perfect solution for everyone’s problems. It would be MONEY every single time. Let’s admit it, cash is king today! It’s what makes the world spin and go around, true or true?
It is success. The more we have of it, the more successful we deem ourselves. Now I would argue that a lot of our cultural values have even been financialized. Humility certainly isn’t in vogue anymore. It’s way too passive. Today, wrongful individuals in our world live a “get rich quick” on the internet type of mentality. I’m sorry, but not really overly sympathetic, for those type of people. Being given or entitled to something like the infamous lottery mentality versus working smart and hard for a noble cause are two polar opposites. Yet, we still see this disparity every single day.
So the question that we all must ask ourselves is, “What is success to us?” Take a deep breathe through your nose, hold it for 7 seconds and then exhale for 7 seconds as well. Then think, “What is success to you?” Is it only more money? That’s cool, I guess. I have no problem with it. I personally have nothing against money. It gives us the time and the resources to do what we want, with who we want, wherever we want. I just simply have a problem with the people who love money.
Nevertheless, maybe success to some is a healthy family. For most, we’ll only ever get 1 or 2 families if we’re fortunate enough. Next, maybe it’s a happy marriage we’re looking for, maybe it’s to help others, to be famous, to be spiritually sound, to leave the world a little bit better of a place than we found it and hundreds of thousands of other ideas too.
“Imagination is everything. It’s the preview to life’s coming attractions.” — Albert Einstein
Continue to ask yourself that question repeatedly because your answers may change and will change overtime. That’s fine! But please do yourself this favor, whatever your answer is, don’t choose anything that will jeopardize your soul, values, morals or ethics. Prioritize who you currently are, who you want to be in the future and do not spend time with anyone who tarnishes your character. It’s the only true worth we as people have.
Whatever you do, don’t drink the KoolAid man. I know it tastes good, delicious and sweet but you will get a hell of a lot of cavities tomorrow! Contrary to popular demand, life is not a popularity contest being judged by the masses. Be brave, be bold, be direct, storm and take the hill but first remember to continuously answer the question, “What’s my hill?”
So for myself, after my 24th birthday, and at this current stage of my life, I’d like to share with you my definition of success by these 5 different measurements: Family, health (mind, body & spirit), friendships, career and freedom. These are what’s important to me in my life right now.
For this awareness to have happened, a lot of personal development, growth, and uncomfortable changes of shedding previously established comfort zones had to be broken. It’s fair to say that at 21 or 22 years of age my definition of success was certainly shadowed by a much poorer lifestyle. I urge all of you to check yourselves at the beginning of this blog and to really self-assess where you currently stand.
As a reminder, great things never came from comfort zones and I’m practically still talking to myself. There’s so much more I want out of life and to be honest it’s right outside of my fingertips. It’s simply going to take some more time, sweat equity, sacrifices and patience.
We must stop fixing what we aren’t good at and solely focus on our strengths. There are plenty of other people around us and supporting cast members who can help to balance our shit out. Time and time again, I’d rather have 1% of 100 peoples efforts than only 100% of 1 persons efforts.
There are way too many voices telling us all what, how and where we should be living our life’s nowadays. And for example, if you wouldn’t be okay trading places with these people for a month or year then I’d highly caution you taking advice from them. Cut out all of the bullshit propaganda surrounding you and your environments. Trust me, it’s easier said than done.
Don’t let another year go by without any real progress that’s made. It’s going to take time so be patient and trust in the process. Focus on differentiating yourself from everyone else because you will be rewarded solely on the value you bring to the marketplace. I have no problem with side hustles and chasing your dreams, just do it the right way and plan for the long term. If I can do it, so can you! We’re all capable of accomplishing extraordinary milestones in life! All of which is directly outside of our comfort zones. Playing it safe is the new risky. Take a little bit more risk in life, you’ll be surprised by what happens.
My Very Best,